Getting Intimate: 5 Tips for Maintaining a Healthy Sex Life
August 14th, 2019 by Candis Hall
Whether you’re in the honeymoon phase of a new relationship or comfort of long-term love, let’s face it: your sex life needs a boost.
Pressures from work, family, and life mean your sexual needs have fallen down the list of your priorities. While your relationship may not be suffering now, it could impact how you and your partner feel about each other in the future.
It’s time to make your sex life a priority: you’ll be happier, more relaxed, and feel closer than ever to your partner.
Get to Know Yourself First
Before you talk to your partner about spicing things up in the bedroom, book some ‘me-time’ alone and spend it getting to know your body again. Learn what feels right and what you don’t like.
Knowing what you do – and don’t – want from sex is the first step to opening communication with your partner.
5 Essential Tips for a Hot and Healthy Sex Life
It’s easy to take your sexual relationship to the next level. Follow these hot tips to boost your relationship.
Talk About It
When you’re ready to open up to your partner about your desire to boost your sex life, take the conversation outside of the bedroom. Neutral ground will help take the pressure off: never bring up your dissatisfaction with your intimacy just after you’ve had sex.
If there’s something you’ve always wanted to try, now’s the time to speak up! Even just talking about doing something new could lead to a revival in the bedroom without going ahead with the activity itself, so don’t be scared to speak up.
You should also understand what each person’s limit is for activities. How rough is too rough? How many times do they like to have sex each week? Which position do they love or hate?
Be open and honest but keep your partner’s feelings in mind. If there’s something they do that you don’t enjoy, focus on how it makes you feel and express that. This helps either party from feeling blamed or shamed for their preferences.
Have a Regular Date Night
Set aside a regular time each month or week for date night. Get a babysitter for a few hours and go out for dinner, try something wild in the bedroom, or simply enjoy time talking over some wine.
A strong sexual relationship revolves around communication and connection with the other person. If you’re not getting quality time together at all, this will impact your enjoyment of sex. Date night doesn’t always have to lead to sex – but it usually does!
Use Lots of Lube
Not enough people know the joys of using plenty of lube. It can turn your usual moves into something that’s out-of-this-world enjoyable.
You can get it in all sorts of flavors and types, too. Try a simple KY Jelly if you’re new to lube, then experiment with the different types. From CBD lube to strawberry flavor, warming lube to one that makes you tingle, it’s all about finding the one you enjoy the most – try lots and have fun!
Try Something New (Not Necessarily in the Bedroom)
Spend time reconnecting with your partner by trying new things together. This could be attempting a new sex position or having sex in a new place, but it doesn’t have to involve any sexual contact at all.
Take a class together, work out together, or do something thrilling like going on a rollercoaster. The dopamine release you get from exciting new things helps you bond with your partner, bringing you closer together than ever.
More Relationship Tips for Living Your Best Life Together
Your sex life is only one small part of making your relationship work. These tips will help you enjoy your intimate times together (and alone!) even more than before.
However, there are more ways to stay healthy and happy in your relationship. Check our health blogs daily for plenty of tips and tricks to live your best lives together!