6 ways to keep your marriage healthy
November 27th, 2019 by Diana Ross
It takes some real effort and hardwork to live a healthy marriage. Whoever tells you, marriage is a walk in the garden – don’t take a minute to conclude that they are lying, Just like good nutrition and regular exercise can help you have a healthy body, there are certain things you can do to have a healthy and successful marriage.
In this article, I will discuss some tips that will help you ace the art of leading a healthy married life:
- Spend Time with One Another
Happy couples spend time with one another and do various activities together, it helps them bond and discover more about each other. While life can get hectic with your kids, career, families, and other responsibilities, it is important to make time for each other.
Couples that don’t spend time in each other’s vicinity are often unaware of what is going on in their spouse’s lives. This anonymity can create distance amidst you both, physically and mentally.
In order to spend as much time together as you can, try to find an activity that both of you can enjoy, or plan to do something you’ve both always wanted to do. Sharing unique experiences can create lasting bonds and memories that can strengthen your relationship.
- Focus on improving your Communication
Communication is one of the most important aspects of marriage but oftentimes, people don’t realize its significance until things go south. You may not even realize that your communication with your partner is suffering until it’s too late.
It is very important that you communicate about EVERYTHING – positive and negative. Don’t be afraid of little issues that might arise if you share something your partner might not be comfortable with. After all, learning what issues to avoid while talking is a part of communicating in a better way. Confiding in each other about everything will help you stay away from any kind of trust issues.
- Keep a check on intimacy
Touch is a fundamental part of human existence. Studies on infants have shown the importance of regular, affectionate contact for brain development. And the benefits don’t end with childhood. Affectionate physical contact boosts your relationship with your spouse.
Sex is definitely necessary to thrive in a committed relationship however it shouldn’t be the only way of physical communication. Sweet-little nothings, frequent, affectionate touch—holding hands, hugging, cuddling,—is equally important. Even if you have pressing workloads or your children to worry about, you can help to keep physical intimacy alive by carving out some regular private time.
With growing responsibilities, there might be a change in the kind of intimacy you and your partner prefers. If you are having trouble to respond to your desires, you should immediately consult a sex therapist to avoid any issues.
- Retain separate identities
Many couples falsely interpret the idea of “the two becoming one.” What the saying actually means is being in unity with your partner and committed to their good as equally as you are to your own self.
Maintaining a balance is necessary because this concept can easily become skewed. While it is important that you share everything with your partner, it is equally important to have a separate identity as well.
Having separate identities will help you avoid the feeling that your world is somehow restricted to your partner’s. Try to build strong friendships with your coworkers and other people in your life. This will constantly give you a sense of belonging to a larger world.
- Understand and Show Empathy for Your Partner
It’s important to try to understand your partner’s issues and show empathy for their struggles without dismissing their feelings or experiences. This will help them build trust in you as they feel they can confide in you without judgment or fear of having their issues ignored or belittled.
While their struggle might not be something you experience or understand yourself, it’s important to put yourself in their shoes and try to understand their point of view. This simple act of empathizing can help you strengthen your communication skills and bolster your relationship as well.
- Learn to Negotiate During Conflicts
Conflicts are bound to happen, no matter who you’re with, especially as you spend a large amount of your time together or have been together for a long period of time.
While conflicts can get intense and sometimes, can last for a while, they don’t have to be the end-all to a marriage. You are both individuals and have different interests. In an argument or conflict, it’s important to negotiate and compromise and come to a solution that considers both of your interests’.
If you want that happily-ever-after, you need to work for it!